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If you follow my Facebook Public Figure page then you know that I am a contributing writer for Supernaturally Fabulous Magazine which started its launch on Monday, June 29th! You will want to go there now and read articles from some of the most talented writers including myself. Supernaturally Fabulous Magazine "was founded as a tool used to build the awareness of readers around the globe in embracing their purpose in life". Now do you see the connection? Here's a teaser for my article; to read it in its entirety, please visit: http://www.superfabmag.com/only-the-strong-survive-im-not-so-sure-about-that/ To survive means you live or exist despite of but to simply exist is not a sole indicator of strength. Suppose you were attacked and barely escaped with your life. Sure, you exist or you are alive but what about your weakened state–the scars, wounds, broken bones, fear, unrest, etc.? Who will tend to your wounds, perform surgery on you or restore you when you are at the point of death and have almost bled out? Oh, I can recall this point in my life; I was entering womanhood, making college plans and desperately trying to gain a sense of normalcy. I was doing what I was suppose to do; doing the best I knew how but something just wasn’t right was founded as a tool used to build the awareness of readers around the globe in embracing their purpose in life . . .
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Where there is great vision and purpose, there will be some friction or resistance. How many times have you tried to do something, put your all into it, crafted amazing plans and the like, only to have everything seem to fall apart? You were passionate, vested (time, energy and finances) and no matter how hard you tried, nothing seemed to work! Why even bother? Where there is great vision, purpose or destiny that awaits you, there is going to be some friction/resistance! I always laugh and tell our Let’s Face It Radio show creator, Wil Strayhorn, we need a TV radio show! As amazing as the episodes are, and our chemistry can be heard on the airways, imagine what it would look like on TV. We keep finding that our best, most impactful shows occur when we initially don’t agree with the vision of the other. One of us will think we should go this way, the other doesn’t agree and then the two of us go back and forth with our pitches. Hmmmm, friction anyone? However, this is proof positive that friction/resistance can be a good thing when utilized properly. We are both visionaries who understand the mission and the role each of us play in it. Our minor disagreements at times are because we are so connected to the mission and our view of how to accomplish it, that we are determined to defend our winning position. At the end of the day, we come to a resolution for the betterment of the show and, viola, the magic happens and we’re both thankful for the initial battle to make it to the finish line. Why? Why even bother? Why not just give in from the beginning and let the other one have his or her way? Where there is great vision, purpose or destiny that awaits you, there is going to be some friction/resistance! Without friction, how else will you ignite the fire to awaken your life, dreams and purpose? Despite the heat/resistance, DON’T ABORT THE MISSION! Bonus: visit letsfaceitradio.com to see exactly what I’m talking about. --Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru Host of Let’s Face It w/Wil Strayhorn and Friends on Blogtalkradio Author of Sometimes all you have is Happy (available on Createspace, Amazon and Kindle) thejoyguru.net When I see the media coverage of the Charleston SC church shooting my mind goes back to the 1963 Birmingham AL church bombing where four black schoolgirls were killed. I refuse to address the racial ties or hate crime angle of the Charleston SC tragedy; enough people have expounded upon that. What must people have not focused on is the fact that Bible prophecy is being fulfilled.
This is not the first time nor will it be the last time that the enemy attacks us in church. For many of us church is that sacred place where your spirit is uplifted and you feel safe and secure in the presence of God. Why would the Devil not pick this safe haven to attack you? You can physically arm yourself, hire security and wear a bulletproof vest but it will be to no avail. These are the last days and bible prophecy is being fulfilled. So, as I offer you these following words of the Lord, please remember to pray every day—for you, your family, your church leader and leadership including their families, your community, your nation, your enemies (yes them) and those you don’t even know. These are the times where praying, fasting and interceding are critical; things will only get worse so brace yourself naturally and spiritually. 2 Timothy 3:1, NKJV But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: 2 For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, 4 traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away! Ephesians 6:11-18, KJV 11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. 13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. 14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; 15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: 18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints; --Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru Host of Let’s Face It w/Wil Strayhorn and Friends on Blogtalkradio www.letsfaceitradio.com Author of Sometimes all you have is Happy (available on Createspace, Amazon and Kindle) thejoyguru.net One of the greatest pleasures in life is when you discover what your purpose is. Very few moments can compare to that time where you say, this is what I was born to do! Oh, if only that was enough; IT ISN'T! With maturity I learned some of life's best lessons are learned during times of great struggles, challenges and defeats. Initially we think things would be great if everything just fell into place and we were able to reap bountifully. Yet, it is during the time of tribulation, perseverance and failure that we learn and develop our strength. Whether I am blessed to be in the company of successful giants or up and comers, one theme seems to reoccur: they don't perceive the depth of their greatness. Simply put . . . . . . examine the graphic. Same person, same eyes but what a dramatic difference! Can you imagine the wardrobe selections of the two? I can see the eye on the left in jeans, sneakers and a simple shirt whereas the one of the right would select a fabulous hair do, beautiful dress, heels and all the accessories perfect for a night out on the town. What does this have to do with anything? So many of us perceive ourselves as the eye on the left: ordinary, doing our job/a good job, comfortable and in the flow of things. We also make the mistake of thinking that everyone else sees us that way too. The reality is others see us as the eye on the right: fascinating, attention grabbing, bold, daring and worthy of any accolades and adornments we can find. Although dramatically different, both eyes belong to the same person which poses the following questions:
Now do you see the difference? Perception is everything and it starts with what you see when you look in the mirror. If you don't give yourself permission to be great, which was actually given to you when you were created, you will always live BELOW your potential and make less than an impact than you could. Want to enlarge your territory and expand your reach with your vision, business or brand? Enlarge your vision and perception of yourself first! --Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru Host of Let’s Face It w/Wil Strayhorn and Friends on Blogtalkradio www.letsfaceitradio.com Author of Sometimes all you have is Happy (available on Createspace, Amazon and Kindle) thejoyguru.net As a radio personality, it is my job to keep abreast of trending topics as well as what people are saying about them. I also understand how media can skew the issues and promote stories in order to take your attention away from the real issues. Despite what you feel about the Bruce/Caitlyn Jennfer story, there is one lesson that this transformation offers to all us personally and professionally.
Life offers plenty of opportunities for you to reinvent yourself and transform. This concept is not only a good idea but mandatory if you want to experience real growth and elevation. Just know that, as you seek real change and emerge/relaunch-rebrand yourself, there will always be those who are looking for the old you:
You can make your own lists of the negativity you experience along your journey or all the fears you have in your head of what people will say if you step out of your comfort zone. Sure, initially it is easy to listen to them and just go with the status quo; mediocrity appears to be convenient. Stepping outside of the box and daring to be different or extraordinary is not for the weak; it is hard, taxing and sometimes devastating. However, ask yourself this: would you rather work every day in mediocrity fulfilling someone else’s vision and storing away wealth for their future generations or would you rather exercise your gift/divine purpose and be the star that you were divinely inspired to be? Hmmmm, now how easy/convenient/comfortable is mediocrity long-term? Dare to be bold, be beautiful and be you; after you weather the storm, like Caitlyn Jenner, you will be at peace and feel like you are who you were meant to be. Otherwise, you will always live a life where you are frustrated, disappointed and feel like you are suffocating. -Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru Host of Let’s Face It w/Wil Strayhorn and Friends on Blogtalkradio www.letsfaceitradio.com Author of Sometimes all you have is Happy (available on Createspace, Amazon and Kindle) thejoyguru.net I am coming off a fabulous, purpose filled and transformational red carpet event at our nation’s capital (you can see my event page or social media pages for more information). I have successfully made the switch to working smarter not harder even though the intensity level is heightened! After waking up to news of the death of Beau Biden, Vice President Joe Biden’s oldest son, I am even more appreciative of my D.C. event experience.
Joseph “Beau” Biden was truly a survivor as demonstrated soon after birth. At two years old he survived a car accident that took the lives of his mother and one year old sister. His life was quoted as one of service: as a young lawyer, working to establish the rule of law in war-torn Kosovo; as an Iraq War veteran who was awarded the Bronze star; and as Delaware’s Attorney General who made it his mission to protect children from abuse. Beau was said to be considering a running for governor of Delaware. He valiantly continued his service through his health battles: in 2010 he suffered a stroke; in 2013 he was diagnosed with brain cancer after seeking treatment due to his feeling disoriented and weak while on vacation. (Side note: routine health screenings, follow-ups and going to the doctor when anything seems unusual is important.) Beau underwent surgery and was given a clean bill of health. When the cancer returned this spring 2015, Biden aggressively pursued treatment up to his death where he was surrounded by his extended family. Time is promised to no man as demonstrated by his age—Beau Biden was only 46 years old. What we should take away from his example is the importance of living a life of purpose and service. Once you discover your divine purpose, let nothing stop or hinder you from fulfilling it! Learn what things you need to let go of, align yourself with those who are like minded and willing to serve with you on the battlefield and work expeditiously as if time was running out. Time waits for no man or woman and no day is promised: I must work the works of him that sent me, while it is day: the night comes, when no man can work. —John 9:4, KJV For more information, please see: http://www.cnn.com/2015/05/30/politics/obit-vice-president-son-beau-biden/ http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/post-politics/wp/2015/05/30/vice-president-bidens-family-announces-death-of-his-son-beau-biden/ http://6abc.com/news/vice-presidents-son-beau-biden-dies-of-brain-cancer/756918/ --Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru Author of Sometimes all you have is Happy (available on Createspace, Amazon and Kindle) thejoyguru.net I simply was not prepared. I started my Memorial Day celebrations early and took some much needed time to rest. I enjoyed a wonderful church service, picked up an evening gown for a red carpet event for the following week and made it to the gym minutes before it opened. Protein shake in hand, bottle of water, swim goggles, etc., and I was ready. Swimming laps on my back one after one when, 15 minutes in, it hit me (queue the lack of preparation).
I transitioned from swimming on my back to on my stomach. I have being swimming for years so there is nothing unusual about this transition. Oddly enough, I tired quickly and struggled to make it to the end of that one lap. Passing the seven ft. mark, I was losing my breath, started taking in water and felt like I was going to drown. I had a few feet left but I felt panic trying to set it. I kept repeating to myself, “calm down, you’re no novice; just keep pushing, remain calm and you can rest when you get to the end”. Well, obviously I made it to the end because I am sharing this lesson. What went wrong? I had not consumed enough calories for the task ahead of me. Oftentimes in our lives, we start with excitement, vision and passion with the end goal in sight without the proper equipment. We do not do our research or count the cost so, when we get to a certain point and feel overwhelmed, our first thought is quit. The reality is, in the heat of your fear, you need to encourage yourself, keep pushing and be determined to make it to the end. After all, if I had quit in seven ft. of water with three more to go, what would the end result have been? I guarantee you, lifeguard or not, quitting would have done more harm than me pressing on. In the heat of your fear, how many times have you given up? What passions, goals, visions or destinies have you forfeited or let die? Want to go back and reclaim what is yours? Here’s a FREE kick start: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/letsfaceitradioshow/2015/05/25/who-do-you-think-you-are-brand-yourself-how-to-stand-out-in-a-crowd If you are a Joy Enthusiast w/the tagline of The Joy Guru, there is one question you hear all the time: how do you stay so happy all the time? I laugh and reply, "that's simple; you don't"! Let me explain . . .
As I share in my book, happiness and joy are two different things; joy is a permanent state/happy is predicated on conditions. If you have been around me or heard me speak, you'll feel a certain happiness and joy that radiates from me. However, I am not happy all the time; I am human. I hurt, I cry, I experience setbacks/devastations/disappointments and failures like everyone else. However, there is one lesson I have learned and am forced to implement repeatedly in the pic above: LET IT GO! Our parents meant well but most of them taught us wrong: while it is important to treat others as you would like to be treated, equal or greater emphasis should have been placed on the no matter what you do there are going to be some people that hate you and do everything to hurt you lesson. There are those that despite your dedication, time spent, energy poured into and affection for will turn around and display the Judas spirit. Truthfully some of them don't even need 30 pieces of silver in exchange for your life; they would sell you for a mere promise! What should you learn from those experiences? After the hurt, anger, devastation and pain, ask yourself: what side of the door did I extend to Judas? Once you recognized that Judas spirit, did you open the door to escort him or her out or did you open the door to your heart just a little wider, hoping that if you gave them more of you it would yield a change of heart? I am not saying Judas was innocent but . . . you can't blame Judas for what he did after you refused to escort him out and opened the door wider for him to come in. --Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru One of the frequent questions that my mother always gets is, You don’t have any grandchildren? The world is shocked that someone with two adult daughters has no grandchildren or son-in-laws. Maybe that is a phenomenon in today’s society but it also reveals a sad truth.
Society is filled with people who subscribe to preconceived notions and standards of what true happiness is and the way to obtain it. You are only happy and truly successful if you have xyz. Some even add to these standards by giving you a specified time (theirs) for you to accomplish all these things. No one ever ask my mother how happy her daughters are or what quality of life do they have? No one ask what are her daughters’ recent accomplishments or successes? No one ask my mother how are your daughters changing the world for the better or how are they productive members of society? Some would rather see you married with children and miserable than to be single with no children and fulfilled and happy. [Disclaimer: I am not saying that because you are married and have children your life is miserable; life can be miserable regardless of your circumstances and commitments.] With maturity, I’ve learned to not be bothered or upset by those questions or statements; rather I feel sorry for the askers. I always say, you can tell a lot about a person by the questions they ask you; not what they say but what it translates to. The difference in the questions in the previous two paragraphs will tell you the substance and life perspective of the asker. People speak and share based on where they are in their life and the sum total of their experiences. Sadly, many have bought into keeping up with the Jones-es or trying to keep up with the status quo. I’ve learned that both of these states will keep you depressed and miserable; you will never have enough or be enough. Typically, when you have reached that point, you feel stuck and unknowingly spread the same limited mindset to others. Buyers beware: be careful of the words, thoughts and questions you entertain from others! You might not be able to stop someone from asking a particular question or making a statement but you can stop it from taking root in your life and living based off of it. All of us question things from time to time and, in our vulnerabilities, doubt our success and outlook. If we veer off course, we must remind ourselves that Jesus is in control of our lives, our future and our destiny. He withholds no good thing from his children nor is his time our time. For every preconceived notion and standard the world provides God has his own plan and standard for each one of his children. [This is why the company you keep is so critical; when your weak, they will hold you up and remind you of these things.] Are you one of his children? Then I pray that whatever plan God has for your life, may He open your eyes to see it, may you fulfill it, thrive in it and live the best you RIGHT NOW! May you not be fooled by the opinions of others or shamed into attempting to seek what they say you should have when you should have only to be repeatedly disappointed. Rather may you seek the purpose and the life that you created for in such a time as this. With God’s blessing and by his power, may you learn how to live a life that is full, abundant and joyfully uninhibited because it is not predicated by the dictates of man. Let no one else’s questions, looks, disparaging remarks (intentional or otherwise) or negativity rob you of the miracle you are. No one knows your story like you know it and, if the truth be told, they are not happy if they constantly criticize and question your life; if they were they wouldn’t have time to be all up in your business asking you why you haven’t done XYZ! Now don’t get an attitude or tell them off; feel sorry for them but let nothing stop your shine! Beware of the probing and judgmental questions of others; if you are not careful, you will buy into their labels and standards and lose the blessing that is your life! Oh yeah, there is a brilliant author that wrote all about this; you can purchase your copy today, lol: createspace.com/5074934 I know, it has been awhile since I blogged. My passions have kept me busy and I have been engaged in more face-to-face activities versus the web. As I have experienced many recent highs in my life, current world events sadden me.
The Baltimore riots are just one more example of Bible prophecy being fulfilled and highlights the state of our nation. Often I don't want to look at the news because it saddens me to see the reality of things versus the media's manipulation and schemes to divert attention away from the real issues. Tonight, however, one commentary provided insight that surpassed the Baltimore riots. Norfolk State University's Dr. Kimberly Hutson said: "Some argue that they are destroying their own community, their own resources but I think some have to realize that in order for you to destroy your own community, your own resources, you have to realize that they are yours." Valid point which made me think: how many times do we not pursue our passions or excel because we do not realize that we can? How many of us do not accomplish a goal or dream because we do not utilize available resources and tools because we don't know we have access to them? Even if you are one of the fortunate ones with vision and daily exhaust yourself in pursuit of your passions, do you really recognize the magnitude of the influence you have RIGHT NOW or do you have tunnel vision of your worth when you make it or finally arrive? Truly obedience is better than sacrifice but, as a believer, I know that without God opening my eyes step by step I could never accomplish any good thing. After being accustomed to striving, fighting and trying to keep hope alive (and my sanity) in a sea of no's and can'ts, it was hard to realize the connections, abilities and unique gifts that I had which made it impossible for me to live below my dreams any longer. The time has come for a new standard and life at a new level. May we all take Dr. Kimberly Hutson's words to heart and apply it to our lives. Realize your own community and resources so that you don't destroy them; know what you have and what is yours. What plays on the mixed tape of your life? You know, the thoughts that captivate your mind the most; the things that keep you up at night; or the things you talk the most about. Whatever it is, the following words of advice are probably applicable: LET IT GO!
We are all human: we all have desires, wants, needs as well as pain, anger and frustration. There are times when events or situations anger us and bring back old memories, disappointments and pain. Naturally we respond with anger and frustration as we are all too upset to feel like we're back at Square One. Teachable moment: what is the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing the same way and expecting different results. Yeah, ponder on that! Again, what song(s) play on the mixed tape of your life? Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8, KJV If your mixed tape doesn't include these things then LET IT GO! --Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru If you're enjoying these blog posts and are in the Hampton Roads, VA area, come see me in person for the April 25th women's Joy Unspeakable Workshop/Luncheon: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/joy-unspeakable-workshopluncheon-unleash-your-joy-and-walk-into-greatness-tickets-16459354372 This past weekend was simply wonderful: I had the opportunity to be Cinderella at the ball. Once again, another valuable lesson was learned:
I have always been a pants, shirt and sneakers chick. No fuss, no frills, just everyday folk. Sure, I know how to talk the talk and walk the walk but my preference is shirt, pants and sneakers. I am not readily excited about black tie affairs, dressy events or fancy dinners--typically I shun them and would rather stay home. That was until my epiphany. As I put on my garb--the evening gown with all its shimmer, the shoes with all their sparkle, my elegant clutch, jewelry and makeup--I started to feel the part. The inner person that first said, you'd rather go anywhere but there/you won't fit in, suddenly was the little girl that loved playing dress up. (I understand why they say clothes makes the man; accessories must make the woman.) As I arrived with my friends, I suddenly warmed up to the valet parking, red carpet and photographs. I was giddy and excited at meeting the big wigs, high profiled people and organizers. Caught up in the whirlwind, God suddenly tapped me on the shoulder. His message? You belong anywhere and EVERYWHERE I open a door for you to enter. It's not the roles I have you play but the fact that there is an audience assigned to you that needs what you have and they need it right now. How can you take a healing message to the nations from your couch or the comforts of home/your comfort zone? So I ask you all the same question. Some of us are so use to constantly struggling, dreaming, fighting and clawing that we're use to pushing to open doors versus walking through open doors. You don't have to be an author, blogger, radio show host or any of the various roles I serve in. All of us have an audience that God assigned to us and they are desperately waiting for what God put inside of you. No one can tell it like you tell it or have the same experience that you had to relate to your audience members. Put on whatever the garb is for the occasion--kente cloth, ballroom gown or a sari--so that you can deliver your message to world and not die with your work undone or your pain being in vain. --Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru No matter where I go there are two things that everyone seems to be talking about: the Hillary Clinton email scandal and Creflo Dollar’s $65 million request to his congregation for a private jet. If you want to hear my personal opinion on Creflo Dollar’s $65 million request, tune in on Sunday, March 22nd to Let’s Face It w/Wil Strayhorn and Friends and I’ll tell you. I already weighed in on the Hillary Clinton email scandal during our March 15th broadcast—that should be available within the next 24 hours at letsfaceitradio.com.
Regardless of how you weigh in on the Creflo Dollar matter, there is one glaring message that remains: what do you tolerate or allow in your life? See, we can argue until Sunday on how right or wrong he is for asking parishioners for such a huge amount of money. We can continue to beat the proverbial dead horse of mega churches, their leaders and how they are “pimping their members”. None of these were the first question or thoughts that came to my mind when I heard this story. Just think of it this way: if Creflo Dollar did make a $65 million dollar request to the church for a private jet, then obviously the environment or culture is one that he feels comfortable enough to make such a request. Only time and research will tell but I’m sure this is not the first big monetary request he has made from that church nor will it be the last. If you sum up the multiple things this church pays for in support of their Pastor and leaders, the total would probably exceed $65 million dollars. Again, my point is that, if this story is true, Creflo Dollar feels COMFORTABLE ENOUGH to makes such a request (right or wrong). Moral of this story: don’t get mad or upset with those in your life that request of you the unthinkable, the ridiculous and the outrageous. (I know it is easier said than done and I repeatedly teach myself the same thing.) What you really need to analyze and ask yourself is, “have I created the perfect environment for them to feel comfortable making this request from me? Have my actions, words and deeds supported their request or demands?” Sometimes the answer is no and that person is simply an opportunist looking for a yes and will ask a million people in the hopes to get what he or she wants. (Some of us could use that type of persistence in our business and personal lives although maybe not the same approach.) However, if your answer reveals that they are comfortable asking the unthinkable because you have continually enabled them and built the perfect breeding ground for their behavior/requests, then the problem is not them but YOU. I had the wonderful privilege of being interviewed by Miriam Stevens, The Brand Paramedic. Miriam is the CEO of MsStevensPR.Com which provides C.P.R. to revive your brand image and resuscitate your social media presence. Below I share with you a short video of the time we spent together on my four tips for successful event planning. Not only will you be able to see another side of me but you will also learn some techniques that will make your life easier. March 7, 1965, known as Bloody Sunday, is infamous for leaving its mark on society. There are no mere words to adequately describe the impact, devastation, loss of lives and violence inflicted upon its victims but you can find a short synopsis here: http://www.blackpast.org/aah/bloody-sunday-selma-alabama-march-7-1965 However, I did want to take this time to ask you this: what bridges are you crossing in your life? See we can all complain about the injustices, challenges and lack of support but it only matters when we take the steps to do something about it. So, again, what bridges are you currently crossing in your life? If you're struggling to answer that question, start with the things that matter to you most. Not just what you say matters but what you spend the majority of your time on. Sometimes in life you will find that what you say matters the most is not where you spend most of your time, energy and resources indicating that an adjustment is needed. Nevertheless, frequently ponder this question because no day is promised to any of us. If your life was all over today, what mark would you leave on this world that would illustrate your significance? Now this is how you pay forward: as Selma illustrated, you cannot give up and you must keep moving ahead because someone else needs you to forge a path on the road THEY must travel! Your failures, setbacks, devastations, disappointments--every bad thing you have experienced--all can be used to breathe life into someone else. Just like a parent who stands a few paces ahead and lovingly urges the baby to "come on" or to take the first steps, you owe the same to others in this world. Don't look at how far you have to go; just KEEP MOVING because others need YOU! #Selma50 Image courtesy of: http://birminghamview.com/online/2015/02/11/selma-jubilee-focuses-restoring-voting-rights-bloody-sundays-50th-anniversary/ This applies to all type of relationships including friendships and acquaintances--not just romantic ones. Sometimes you have to break free from the drama, negativity, doubt, opinions and the box they tried to put you in to become all that God would have you to be. In the dry places you hear the voice of God clearer than ever and above your cries, hurt and pain. Cry, pick up the broken pieces and tell the Lord thank you! Learn to enjoy and love the process; you're blessed because God makes no mistakes!
P.S.: stop explaining, feeling guilty or expect them to understand. Sometimes in life you have to make the choice between them and you. Your peace, your happiness, your success, taking back your power, finding your voice and purpose vs. what they think, what their opinion is, their negativity, their drama, their hate, etc. Choose you, go with God, press forward, be diligent and expect miracles! "Who the son sets free is free indeed!" #Peace+Anointing&VisionArePriceless #Destiny&MiraclesAwaitYou #Repost from @im_soworthit with @repostapp Boom!! Keep It Moving and Don't Look Back...Your Purpose Is Not There!!!! #Dating #DateWithPurpose #Relationships #RelationshipGoals #God #GodIsFaithful The Imitation Game’s screenwriter Graham Moore’s Oscar speech:
“So in this brief time here, what I wanted to do was say this: When I was 16 years old, I tried to kill myself because I felt weird and I felt different, and I felt like I did not belong . . . and now I’m standing here, and so I would like this moment to be for this kid out there who feels like she’s weird or she’s different or she doesn’t fit in anywhere. Yes, you do. I promise you do. Stay weird, stay different and then, when it’s your turn, and you are standing on this stage, please pass the same message to the next person who comes along.” These words made my spirit glad but they are the testament of my life. Some of us, more than others, were born with unique things that made us stand out and be picked on. Society’s views are fleeting and constantly changing; if you base your self-worth and self-esteem on them alone, you are doomed for failure. Add to that life’s traumas, drama and failures, and depression, sadness and sometimes thoughts of suicide are inevitable. I am a firm believer and a witness that, although God may not create your pain or setback, God will use even the darkest moments of your life to bring Him glory. I remember my dark days of childhood abuse and the constant pain that led me to contemplate suicide on many occasions. During those moments I could never imagine my pain and what happened to me ever having a purpose or being used in any way, shape or form for any good purpose. Today, I am a living witness, that not only will God get the glory from your pain, defeats and traumas but He will also use them to propel you into greatness. The world needs the authenticity and solution/breath of life that can only come from the pit of your despair, defeat and pain. Indeed, stay weird, stay alive and fight for another day; you are worth it and the world is counting on you! Want to know where to start? Purchase your copy of Sometimes all you have is Happiness: A guide to obtaining happiness while awaiting your dreams: The truth is, there is always a message from the Lord but will you be a messenger?
As I shared at an author's workshop today, everyone has his or her story to tell. We have all been through something, endured or survived something and are overcomers. In order for your pain to have purpose, you must reach the audience that God has designed just for you. How? OBEDIENCE. Whenever I prepare for a speaking engagement or networking event, I ask God to give me what words He would have me to say. (I do the same for these blog posts.) I know I have a gift for words and am an engaging speaker but there is an extra special touch when your words are seasoned with God's grace. What He told me was: there is always a word from God but will you be a messenger? Isa. 6:8, KJV: Also I heard the voice of the Lord, saying, Whom shall I send, and who will go for us? Then said I, Here am I; send me. I am not going to tell you that God created your pain or was responsible for your pain. What I will say is that God can use your pain and give it purpose. He can use it not only to transform your life for the better but provide healing and restoration to thousands of others. During my childhood abuse I was an avid writer and poet. That gift saved my life and now saves the lives of others as I share my testimony. I am blessed to have lived long enough to see my pain and its purpose in action. Not to shabby for someone who once prayed to die! So, how will you immortalize the pages of your life? What will be the legacy that you leave on this world? Think about it, be prayerful but go forth! Do not sit on your anointing or blessing; some needs what you have and it may just change the world! Author of: Sometimes all you have is Happy--A guide to obtaining happiness while awaiting your dreams
www.createspace.com/5074934 I said it last week but it bears repeating: BE THANKFUL!
No, this is not some hokey cheer or pump you up speech but it is a necessary lesson/state of mind to experience exceeding joy. Here in Virginia we are bracing for a winter storm and that is the perfect circumstance for thankfulness. How? Do you have a refrigerator and or pantry with food items and water? If your answer is yes, then that means you have shelter, food, electricity or some heat source and provisions. You might not live in the home of your dreams but, even if the insulation isn’t up to par, I guarantee you that it is warmer than concrete. Even the news channels are mentioning places that are opening to provide warmth during this winter storm. To boot, you might even have transportation to get you wherever you need to go and or can all out and have food delivered to your home. The storm will soon pass, just like many of the storms of life: sickness, death, hurt, pain, loss, etc. No matter what storm you are currently in or preparing for—in case you didn’t know, we remain in either of these states and continuously rotate—count it ALL JOY! Everything might not be what you want it to be but it could be worse. If you think about it, it probably has been or you can count the number of ways that God spared your life and kept you from hurt, harm and danger. (Do you remember that person that you thought was perfect for you and now you look and ask, What was I thinking?!! I bet that will get the thankful ball rolling!) Everyone is facing some type of battle each day but, despite your challenges, there are many who would give anything to trade places with you. Think of those that have passed on that would have loved to have the additional day of life that you have today. BE THANKFUL and count it ALL JOY! --Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru thejoyguru.weebly.com P.S: Listen to Thankful by Jonny Lang featuring Michael McDonald: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sI00gtVg_Dk I woke up this morning to the above pic--a glaring reminder that the devil didn't win and that my setbacks were all part of a divine plan. I always get emotional when preparing to co-hosts any show on Let's Face It with Wil Strayhorn and Friends (letsfaceitradio.com). I am taking aback when I think of the little girl that was scared to speak, look people in the eye and had been taught by her abuser that you are not important, you will never amount to anything and you're stupid. When I wasn't praying for God to give me the courage to commit suicide, I was journaling my thoughts and dancing with dreams of one day become a published author and giving Maya Angelou and Oprah Winfrey a run for their money. (I'm still working on that y'all.) Flash forward 35 years and a resounding truth is being magnified: "you shall live and not die and declare the works of the Lord. You can do all things through Christ which strengthens you. This is not unto to the death". These scriptures and words were put in my spirit during my darkest hours and enabled me to hold on. I keep them with me today and still rely on them during times of heartbreak, persecution and devastation. Truthfully, everyone is facing a battle or struggle in this journey called life; that is why we should be more loving, caring and compassionate in our dealings with one another. Yet, I share my story with you to encourage you that, as you face your pain, struggles and challenges, don't give in or give up: use each one as motivation to rise up and achieve greatness. If you were meant to die, you would have been dead already; you SURVIVED for a distinct purpose and you will not die until you fulfill it! You cannot begin your work or fix what you refuse to face. I invite you to tune in next Sunday, February 15th at 8:30 pm EST, to letsfaceitradio.com for a special broadcast and topic near and dear to my heart: Teen Suicide. This is an issue that will not go away and, whether you realize it or not, it affects you:
You don’t have to be a football fan or Super Bowl viewer to understand the valuable lesson that Malcolm Butler taught us last night. In a postgame interview, Butler said: “I just had a vision that I was going to make a big play”. Indeed he did! If you didn’t watch what happened, Butler, a rookie, intercepted Seattle Seahawks’ quarterback, Russell Wilson, near the goal line with nearly 20 seconds remaining in the game. That move ended what appeared to be the Seahawks' Super Bowl victory. "I just had a vision that I was going to make a big play”. Don’t be fooled; Butler’s vision didn’t just start at SuperBowl 49 or when he stepped on the starting line. Butler has lived his life as the underdog: one of five children, he worked part time at Popeye’s chicken after being dismissed five games into his freshman season at Community College. How did he go from a part-time Popeye’s employee to single handedly turning a loss into a win in the biggest game of the year? Receivers coach and director of football operations, Michael McCarty, said it best: “We just called him 'The Playmaker.' He's a hardcore guy. He gets after it. He is as fiery a competitor as I've ever seen, especially at that position. He was always around the ball. He's a ball hawk. He wasn't going to give up an inch. That's just how he is." Are you a playmaker? What is your vision/big play? Are you in fiery pursuit of it? If not, light or reignite your fire and start your winning game plan. All things are possible if you believe and have a vision! --Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru thejoyguru.weebly.com One message that I cannot get away from is that it is okay to give yourself permission to heal—it is NECESSARY. So many will tell you this concept is selfish, thoughtless or egotistical. Actually it is thoughtless and selfish for you not put yourself first, except for when it comes to god, and egotistical for anyone to demand the opposite of you. Why? The Airline Oxygen Mask Exercise is the perfect example and I share it often. During their safety instructions, the attendant will tell passengers their first priority is to put on their own oxygen mask before attempting to help other passengers including their children. Why? Putting on your mask first decreases the risk of you passing out before having the opportunity to help anyone. Moral of the story: if you cannot breathe, are drowning, suffocating or depleting your strength, attempting to save someone else first will only result in everyone dying or you causing greater harm than good. So, unless you are making the ultimate sacrifice and exchanging your life so someone else can live, make sure you continually renew your mind, body and spirit. You must remain uplifted and fully charged so that you have something to give instead of running on empty and causing more harm than good. Find out how to re-energize and identify the root(s) of your issues today: createspace.com/5074934: One of the joys of mentoring is watching the development of your mentees. One reoccurring theme is that we are the crowns we choose to wear. What do I mean?
All too often I come in contact with those who are part of the "pity party committee". Now, we all have our crosses to bear and there is a time for grief and mourning. Yet, Proverbs 18:21 is a self-fulfilling prophecy: "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit", NKJV. Too many of us, and at times I fall victim to the same, love the attention that comes from complaining, whining and looking for sympathy. We want to talk about how hard we have had it, the breaks we never received and the raw deals that were handed to us. Some take this to the extreme and it would appear that they are living martyrs. Well, that is the problem: there are NO LIVING MARTYRS!!!! You can do the research yourself but, by definition, a martyr is someone who suffers persecution and/or death for advocating, renouncing, refusing to renounce, and/or refusing to advocate a belief or cause of either a religious or secular nature. Meditate on that for a moment; most of us have never experienced this extreme level of persecution and definitely not for religious or similar reasons. A beauty queen sets her eyes on the crown and creates a winning strategy that she pursues RELENTLESSLY. She refuses to stop until she is wearing her shining, sparkling crown. Are you doing the same but in reverse? Do your actions, conversations and consuming thoughts equate to a crown of suffering, poverty, denial, lack, chaos, confusion, helplessness, insecurity, low self-esteem or . . . a martyr? Just remember, regardless of the crown you pursue, be careful: a martyr must die! Begin your work today to identify what crown you have been chasing versus what you really want out of life: createspace.com/5074934 |
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