This applies to all type of relationships including friendships and acquaintances--not just romantic ones. Sometimes you have to break free from the drama, negativity, doubt, opinions and the box they tried to put you in to become all that God would have you to be. In the dry places you hear the voice of God clearer than ever and above your cries, hurt and pain. Cry, pick up the broken pieces and tell the Lord thank you! Learn to enjoy and love the process; you're blessed because God makes no mistakes!
P.S.: stop explaining, feeling guilty or expect them to understand. Sometimes in life you have to make the choice between them and you. Your peace, your happiness, your success, taking back your power, finding your voice and purpose vs. what they think, what their opinion is, their negativity, their drama, their hate, etc. Choose you, go with God, press forward, be diligent and expect miracles! "Who the son sets free is free indeed!"
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The Imitation Game’s screenwriter Graham Moore’s Oscar speech:
“So in this brief time here, what I wanted to do was say this: When I was 16 years old, I tried to kill myself because I felt weird and I felt different, and I felt like I did not belong . . . and now I’m standing here, and so I would like this moment to be for this kid out there who feels like she’s weird or she’s different or she doesn’t fit in anywhere. Yes, you do. I promise you do. Stay weird, stay different and then, when it’s your turn, and you are standing on this stage, please pass the same message to the next person who comes along.”
These words made my spirit glad but they are the testament of my life. Some of us, more than others, were born with unique things that made us stand out and be picked on. Society’s views are fleeting and constantly changing; if you base your self-worth and self-esteem on them alone, you are doomed for failure. Add to that life’s traumas, drama and failures, and depression, sadness and sometimes thoughts of suicide are inevitable.
I am a firm believer and a witness that, although God may not create your pain or setback, God will use even the darkest moments of your life to bring Him glory. I remember my dark days of childhood abuse and the constant pain that led me to contemplate suicide on many occasions. During those moments I could never imagine my pain and what happened to me ever having a purpose or being used in any way, shape or form for any good purpose. Today, I am a living witness, that not only will God get the glory from your pain, defeats and traumas but He will also use them to propel you into greatness.
The world needs the authenticity and solution/breath of life that can only come from the pit of your despair, defeat and pain. Indeed, stay weird, stay alive and fight for another day; you are worth it and the world is counting on you!
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The truth is, there is always a message from the Lord but will you be a messenger?
As I shared at an author's workshop today, everyone has his or her story to tell. We have all been through something, endured or survived something and are overcomers. In order for your pain to have purpose, you must reach the audience that God has designed just for you. How? OBEDIENCE.
Whenever I prepare for a speaking engagement or networking event, I ask God to give me what words He would have me to say. (I do the same for these blog posts.) I know I have a gift for words and am an engaging speaker but there is an extra special touch when your words are seasoned with God's grace. What He told me was: there is always a word from God but will you be a messenger? Isa. 6:8, KJV: Also I heard the voice of the Lord, saying, Whom shall I send, and who will go for us? Then said I, Here am I; send me.
I am not going to tell you that God created your pain or was responsible for your pain. What I will say is that God can use your pain and give it purpose. He can use it not only to transform your life for the better but provide healing and restoration to thousands of others. During my childhood abuse I was an avid writer and poet. That gift saved my life and now saves the lives of others as I share my testimony. I am blessed to have lived long enough to see my pain and its purpose in action. Not to shabby for someone who once prayed to die!
So, how will you immortalize the pages of your life? What will be the legacy that you leave on this world? Think about it, be prayerful but go forth! Do not sit on your anointing or blessing; some needs what you have and it may just change the world!
Author of: Sometimes all you have is Happy--A guide to obtaining happiness while awaiting your dreams
I said it last week but it bears repeating: BE THANKFUL!
No, this is not some hokey cheer or pump you up speech but it is a necessary lesson/state of mind to experience exceeding joy. Here in Virginia we are bracing for a winter storm and that is the perfect circumstance for thankfulness. How?
Do you have a refrigerator and or pantry with food items and water? If your answer is yes, then that means you have shelter, food, electricity or some heat source and provisions. You might not live in the home of your dreams but, even if the insulation isn’t up to par, I guarantee you that it is warmer than concrete. Even the news channels are mentioning places that are opening to provide warmth during this winter storm. To boot, you might even have transportation to get you wherever you need to go and or can all out and have food delivered to your home.
The storm will soon pass, just like many of the storms of life: sickness, death, hurt, pain, loss, etc. No matter what storm you are currently in or preparing for—in case you didn’t know, we remain in either of these states and continuously rotate—count it ALL JOY! Everything might not be what you want it to be but it could be worse. If you think about it, it probably has been or you can count the number of ways that God spared your life and kept you from hurt, harm and danger. (Do you remember that person that you thought was perfect for you and now you look and ask, What was I thinking?!! I bet that will get the thankful ball rolling!)
Everyone is facing some type of battle each day but, despite your challenges, there are many who would give anything to trade places with you. Think of those that have passed on that would have loved to have the additional day of life that you have today. BE THANKFUL and count it ALL JOY!
--Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru
P.S: Listen to Thankful by Jonny Lang featuring Michael McDonald: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sI00gtVg_Dk
I woke up this morning to the above pic--a glaring reminder that the devil didn't win and that my setbacks were all part of a divine plan.
I always get emotional when preparing to co-hosts any show on Let's Face It with Wil Strayhorn and Friends (letsfaceitradio.com). I am taking aback when I think of the little girl that was scared to speak, look people in the eye and had been taught by her abuser that you are not important, you will never amount to anything and you're stupid. When I wasn't praying for God to give me the courage to commit suicide, I was journaling my thoughts and dancing with dreams of one day become a published author and giving Maya Angelou and Oprah Winfrey a run for their money. (I'm still working on that y'all.)
Flash forward 35 years and a resounding truth is being magnified: "you shall live and not die and declare the works of the Lord. You can do all things through Christ which strengthens you. This is not unto to the death". These scriptures and words were put in my spirit during my darkest hours and enabled me to hold on. I keep them with me today and still rely on them during times of heartbreak, persecution and devastation.
Truthfully, everyone is facing a battle or struggle in this journey called life; that is why we should be more loving, caring and compassionate in our dealings with one another. Yet, I share my story with you to encourage you that, as you face your pain, struggles and challenges, don't give in or give up: use each one as motivation to rise up and achieve greatness. If you were meant to die, you would have been dead already; you SURVIVED for a distinct purpose and you will not die until you fulfill it! You cannot begin your work or fix what you refuse to face.
I invite you to tune in next Sunday, February 15th at 8:30 pm EST, to letsfaceitradio.com for a special broadcast and topic near and dear to my heart: Teen Suicide. This is an issue that will not go away and, whether you realize it or not, it affects you:
You don’t have to be a football fan or Super Bowl viewer to understand the valuable lesson that Malcolm Butler taught us last night. In a postgame interview, Butler said: “I just had a vision that I was going to make a big play”. Indeed he did!
If you didn’t watch what happened, Butler, a rookie, intercepted Seattle Seahawks’ quarterback, Russell Wilson, near the goal line with nearly 20 seconds remaining in the game. That move ended what appeared to be the Seahawks' Super Bowl victory. "I just had a vision that I was going to make a big play”.
Don’t be fooled; Butler’s vision didn’t just start at SuperBowl 49 or when he stepped on the starting line. Butler has lived his life as the underdog: one of five children, he worked part time at Popeye’s chicken after being dismissed five games into his freshman season at Community College. How did he go from a part-time Popeye’s employee to single handedly turning a loss into a win in the biggest game of the year?
Receivers coach and director of football operations, Michael McCarty, said it best: “We just called him 'The Playmaker.' He's a hardcore guy. He gets after it. He is as fiery a competitor as I've ever seen, especially at that position. He was always around the ball. He's a ball hawk. He wasn't going to give up an inch. That's just how he is."
Are you a playmaker? What is your vision/big play? Are you in fiery pursuit of it? If not, light or reignite your fire and start your winning game plan. All things are possible if you believe and have a vision!
--Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru
One message that I cannot get away from is that it is okay to give yourself permission to heal—it is NECESSARY. So many will tell you this concept is selfish, thoughtless or egotistical. Actually it is thoughtless and selfish for you not put yourself first, except for when it comes to god, and egotistical for anyone to demand the opposite of you. Why?
The Airline Oxygen Mask Exercise is the perfect example and I share it often. During their safety instructions, the attendant will tell passengers their first priority is to put on their own oxygen mask before attempting to help other passengers including their children. Why? Putting on your mask first decreases the risk of you passing out before having the opportunity to help anyone.
Moral of the story: if you cannot breathe, are drowning, suffocating or depleting your strength, attempting to save someone else first will only result in everyone dying or you causing greater harm than good. So, unless you are making the ultimate sacrifice and exchanging your life so someone else can live, make sure you continually renew your mind, body and spirit. You must remain uplifted and fully charged so that you have something to give instead of running on empty and causing more harm than good.
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