If you are a Joy Enthusiast w/the tagline of The Joy Guru, there is one question you hear all the time: how do you stay so happy all the time? I laugh and reply, "that's simple; you don't"! Let me explain . . .
As I share in my book, happiness and joy are two different things; joy is a permanent state/happy is predicated on conditions. If you have been around me or heard me speak, you'll feel a certain happiness and joy that radiates from me. However, I am not happy all the time; I am human. I hurt, I cry, I experience setbacks/devastations/disappointments and failures like everyone else. However, there is one lesson I have learned and am forced to implement repeatedly in the pic above: LET IT GO!
Our parents meant well but most of them taught us wrong: while it is important to treat others as you would like to be treated, equal or greater emphasis should have been placed on the no matter what you do there are going to be some people that hate you and do everything to hurt you lesson. There are those that despite your dedication, time spent, energy poured into and affection for will turn around and display the Judas spirit. Truthfully some of them don't even need 30 pieces of silver in exchange for your life; they would sell you for a mere promise! What should you learn from those experiences?
After the hurt, anger, devastation and pain, ask yourself: what side of the door did I extend to Judas? Once you recognized that Judas spirit, did you open the door to escort him or her out or did you open the door to your heart just a little wider, hoping that if you gave them more of you it would yield a change of heart? I am not saying Judas was innocent but . . . you can't blame Judas for what he did after you refused to escort him out and opened the door wider for him to come in.
--Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru